We all have things or situations that we’re a little scared of. Mine seem to go through phases. At one point the dentist, then flying, then the dentist again,...
When I think back to the friendship groups I’ve moved through throughout the years, there are many. From primary school groups who dispersed in secondary, huge groups of male friends who dispersed into relationshipdom and those big, blow-out friendships where you can’t even remember what you fell out about in the first place.
Luckily, over the years I have collated a group of really, really good friends. Many people I speak to, agree that your twenties are the years where you weed out the bad friendships and the friendships which aren’t good for you, the drama and the people that cause them. What you’re left with, is a shiny group of the best people who make you the best version of yourself. Although the weeding was at times hard and heartbreaking (no one prepares you for the feelings that come with losing certain friends), in other ways it was easy and it would be months before I’d even remembered that that person was ever part of my life… #awkward
Now, I know I can always look forward to a night out with my friends, without there ever being bitchiness, drama and the type of erratic behaviour which borders on scary rather than funny. I can invite my girls to anything, knowing that they can meet my Nan, just as well as they can other best friends without cause for concern. They aren’t going to be trying to snog my boyfriend when I turn my back and they certainly aren’t going to be pretending to be my ‘bezzie’ for the sole sake of their Instagram grid. I love the comfort I get from the group of friends I’ve carefully arrived at and look forward to seeing them for weeks in advance.
Which leads me on to the friends I haven’t met yet.
I find it odd when people say “I have all my friends now, I don’t need any more”. I feel like there is always room for more amazing people in your life. Especially when you’ve cleared out two or three to make room. LOL. I especially think there’s room for people that you grow into as your interests grow and change. So here are just a few of the friends I feel I have yet to meet.
I’ve always been bookish and I’m glad that I’m past the phase where girls have to pretend they don’t read or like books, for fear of seeming uncool. Even so, as I spent most of my Uni days in a post-Tiger Tiger haze, I perhaps didn’t make the most of the opportunity to meet as many fellow book-lovers as I could have. I’m sure I’ll get another choice and am hesitantly awaiting the day that I find the perfect Essex book club to pour over Lena Dunham, JoJo Moyes and Stephen Chbosky over wine. And maybe cheese.
I still LOVE going out. I know this is controversial to say at 26, while in a relationship, that I still like to go to clubs and bars and wake up with a prosecco soaked cotton-wool head. But I do. Contrary to many a meme, it does not make me the spawn of satan nor a ‘club hoe’ because I like to get dressed up and head out for music, dancing and drinking. Unfortunately, this means I often exhaust my reserves of club-loving friends before I exhaust my own needs to get down to some Rihanna. Here’s to the mental, Prosecco-loving girl gang squad I’m to find in a club bathroom one day, who will welcome me as one of their own.
3.Internet IRL friends
Living my work and life on the internet means that I’m forever coming across smart, funny, kind women who champion each other and lift others up, rather than dragging them down. I’m yet to master the transfer from internet to IRL but I know that one day I’ll sit with a group, or individual and laugh over the Twitter memes that we once bonded over.
4. Nice friends
Nice in a friendship is completely underrated. I couldn’t care less what my friends wear, the company they keep or the places they hang out. But I do care that they’re nice. And not just to me, but the people I care about, the waitresses and the people they bump into in the street. People who are rude for the sake of being rude, or who generally don’t realise that it’s rude to sit on the phone when you’re out at lunch with a friend who’s cancelled two important meetings to be there, are not for me. So here’s to finding those rare, truly gold-hearted wonders who are just genuinely, without agenda or cause, nice.
Who are the friends you know you haven’t met yet? Tweet me from the sisterhood @thefullagenda and let me know what you think
Beth is a Writer and Digital Marketer who founded The Full Agenda as a place to talk about the things that kept her and her friends up at night. Currently working as a Marketing consultant to various SMEs she is a big fan of the startup market and loves technology, apps and anything social media related. When not obsessively checking Google Analytics, she can be found reading, writing or relaxing with a glass of Prosecco.
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