I’ve moved around a lot in the past few years. In fact, I’ve packed up my worldly belongings into battered cardboard boxes and relocated my entire life...
In times of darkness and doubt (of which there are lots) there’s a selection of quotes and comments and phone screenshots that I turn to. A random mix of things I’ve picked up from magazines and blogs and social media, from women all over the world and different walks of life. They help me to feel better and to be real and to ignore the social media showreel for just a minute.
I want to share them with you. And please be sure to provide comments and other quotes that you love for the times when we all need to remember why we started in the first place.
I love this phrase from Katie as it’s something I’ve been coming to grips with too – that success doesn’t mean fancy car, huge house, tons of money. Success looks different to different people and for me, is more about living a life that I’ve created that fits in with my needs then necessarily being hugely rich/famous/owner of a huge company.
Couldn’t agree more. I have previously spent weeks and sometimes months debating whether or not to be brave and do something. Each time I have ended up taking the leap I have never regretted it. Ever. So take the leap is good advice!
I feel really bad that I can’t find the source for this, but it’s a comment on a blogpost that I screenshotted, again when I was trying to decide whether to quit the job that made me dread getting up in the morning. It is just so genuine and something I look back on often.
As someone I hugely admire I love this post from Emma Gannon. I often worry about how my ambition affects my relationships and people’s perception of what else I can achieve/ or am not achieving because of it. I have the most supportive partner I could ask for but I know his friends are often bemused when I treat us to a meal, or that we have a cleaner because even though I work from home my job and my career are more important to me than cleaning the cupboards.
I read an interview with actress Lily James just before Cinderella came out and unfortunately I can’t find where I read it (I think it may have been ASOS’ April edition but there isn’t a back issue online) and what she said really touched a nerve with me. The above is heavily paraphrased but this is the general gist and It’s what I tell my girlfriends too when they’re doubting themselves about something I know they can do.
This is what success is!! It’s crazy that we live in a world that tells us we must do x, y and z if we want to be considered ‘successful’ or ‘ambitious’. I truly believe in Rebecca’s words that success is about personal fulfilment and this is something I will be reminding myself of daily.
You should! If you’re happy working for someone else then great, but if you’re not then there are so many opportunities out there where you could work for yourself and it truly is soul-feeding.
Slightly taken out of context here but part of what drives my ambition is to live a wholehearted life and give my work and aim to succeed my all. I feel like there is so much to learn and enjoy and try when it comes to work and career but it has taken me a while to be open about trying and not worrying about it being ‘uncool’ or not acceptable as a women to have this fire.
I heard this on a Podcast and really liked the message. I believe success is a combination of factors – hard work, taking opportunities and being a ‘trier’.
When I was trying decide whether I should go freelance or remain in a job I wasn’t enjoying this is something I came across (in fact I began to draw lots of different viewpoints about decision/courage/change towards me) but this really resonated with me. It’s so true! You can spend months deliberating and planning but the outcome will always be the same.
This is something often unspoken – that ambition looks different to everyone. Ambition does not necessarily mean a big job, big car and big job title. Ambition can be anything. From having a family, to volunteering, to being the owner of four dogs. One thing women need to do (myself included) is to stop judging different people’s decisions by whether they match up to our own marks of ambition and just accept them and support the women behind them.
With ambition comes so many discussions about women’s roles and how they are perceived in the media to how they are in real life. Reese makes this point perfectly and it’s about time films and magazines and TV shows began reflecting the reality of fiercely ambitious women.
How can you not love this quote from Dawn O’Porter? She said this on the Girl Lost in the City podcast and I loved it. In life you have reachers and settlers and if you are a reacher then I’m sure this will fuel your fire as well!
If you get a chance, listen to Emma’s 20-minute Ted Talk on the link above. It’s one of the only articles/podcasts/talks I’ve ever seen that talks about ambition for the regular, everyday woman. Not the women who have already made it, the Sheryl Sandbergs or the Karren Bradys. Just everyday women who can still be ambitious, and fulfilled and the leading ladies in their own lives.
Something that’s not discussed very often is the downside and the dark side of ambition. This is something I’ve had to accept – that the more you try, the more light there will be but also the more dark. The more jealousy, the more envy, the more doubt, the more feelings of inadequacy and pointlessness that you may feel. So Brené’s quote here really stood out to remind me that there is a reason for the darkness and that actually, it makes our conquests and our light even more vibrant.
Beth is a Writer and Digital Marketer who founded The Full Agenda as a place to talk about the things that kept her and her friends up at night. Currently working as a Marketing consultant to various SMEs she is a big fan of the startup market and loves technology, apps and anything social media related. When not obsessively checking Google Analytics, she can be found reading, writing or relaxing with a glass of Prosecco.
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